Toys

Small person’s relationship with toys is complicated. For a long time they didn’t have regular access to toys. Consequently their interest shifted to other objects. Small person has lots of toys that have been bought for them. They wax and wane between playing with them a bit and ignoring them completely in favour of making…

Future/Past

It feels like we’re living in the days of future past here. Moving house is showing small person a future with them at the heart of it. We’re talking a great deal about things we will do and can look forward to. At the same time small person is expressing more about their past. They’re…

Support

The thing about support is that it’s different for everyone. It’s also different in every situation, I know that the support I need varies over time. Support also needs to come from more than one source. I feel much more supported now that I have a GP who wants to listen and understand without judgment….

Childhood Friend

I am incredibly lucky, my childhood best friend is still my best friend. We’re celebrating 32 years of friendship this year and it’s wonderful. It’s wonderful because we totally understand each other and that sometimes we might do things that are for the best for the other person. For example I didn’t tell my best…

Holidays

I asked Nana what I should write about for the theme of holidays. Here is her post. Holidays are hard. The End. I think that’s a pretty fair summation of most of our holidays. Before they came home to me small person went to a lot of different places with a lot of different people….

Grandparents

Sometimes in the middle of the night I think about what my grandparents would think about small person. I wonder what they would think of the adult that I’ve grown into and the parent I’ve become. Then I think about my memories of being with them: of walks; of stories; of planting, growing and harvesting….

Routine

Small person didn’t have a lot of routine in their birth family. They had a lot more routine with their wonderful foster carer. But they didn’t mind things being different or being out of routine. Now small person really likes routine. Up to a point. They like for the same things to happen in the…

Planes, trains and automobiles

Every so often I consider taking small person on a train. Then I think about how challenging they find it being in the car for longer than a regular journey and I think maybe it’s not time yet. I have to be honest I don’t think we are anywhere near small person being able to…

Boundaries and shoes: Mummatron’s first away overnight trip

So, I didn’t mention it before but I got nominated and shortlisted for Adoption Blogger of The Year. Last night I got to go to the awards ceremony in that there London. This meant that I had to stay overnight. In a hotel. On my own. Small person stayed home with Nana. That’s something I’ve…

Distance friendships

At the moment I do feel like all my friendships are distance friendships because I’ve not been prioritising the time or space to see close friends regularly, though I am working on it. Two close friends have also moved to other parts of the country over the last few months. But actually some of my…

Self care

A lot of what I thought self care was about has turned out to be a load of old cobblers of late. I’ve had to learn about how to take care of myself (which is how I prefer to think about it) the hard way over the past few months because my mental and physical…

Music

Small person’s relationship with music is complex. They very much have their own tastes and that’s fine but most of the time they don’t want to have anything to do with the music choices of anyone else. I made a new playlist this afternoon, small person, myself and Nana all got to choose 5 songs…